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第27章 学会掌控自己的情绪Today I Will Be Master ons of My Emotions

佚名/Anonymous

潮涨潮落,冬去夏来,暑消寒长,日升日落,月圆月缺,雁来雁往,花开花谢,春种秋收。自然界万事万物都处于循环变化中,我是大自然的一部分,所以,我也有如潮水般的情绪,时涨时落。

很少有人懂得,这是大自然的一种愚弄。每天早晨,我醒来时,心情都与昨天不同。昨天的欢乐可能成了今天的悲伤,然而,今天的悲伤可能发展成明天的欢乐。在我的内心深处,好像有一个轮子,不断地从悲伤转到欢乐,从狂喜转到绝望,从快乐变为忧郁。就像花儿,今天绽放的喜悦会慢慢消退,变成明天凋谢的绝望。但是我会记住,今天枯萎的花朵同样孕育着明天绽放的种子,正如今天的悲伤也播种了明天的欢乐。

要让每一天都卓有成效,我该怎样控制这些情绪呢?如果我心浮气躁,那么这一天将会在失败中度过。植物树木的繁盛依赖于天气,但我创造着自己的天气,可以随时掌控。

那么我要怎样控制自己的情绪,让每一个日子充满快乐和成效呢?我要学会这个千古秘诀:行为受控于情绪的人是弱者,强者只会用行为控制情绪。每天醒来时,我要这样对抗悲伤、自怜、失败的情绪,这样才不会被它们俘虏——

如果我觉得沮丧,就放声歌唱。

如果我感到悲伤,就露出微笑。

如果我身体不适,就加倍工作。

如果我陷入恐惧,就埋头苦干。

如果我自惭形秽,就换上新装。

如果我犹疑不决,就提高分贝。

如果我囊中羞涩,就想象财富将至。

如果我力不从心,就回忆以往的成功。

如果我自轻自贱,就铭记自己的目标。

从今以后,我懂得,只有能力较低的人才会一直处于最佳状态,而我并非低能者。总有些时候,有些力量企图将我毁灭,而我必须不断地与之对抗。其中失望与悲伤很容易识破,但是,还有其他一些力量往往带着微笑靠近我,并向我伸出友谊之手,可它们却能将我毁灭。我同样要与它们抗争,永远不放弃对它们的掌控:

如果我骄傲自负,就追寻失败的记忆。

如果我沉湎享乐,就想想挨饿的过去。

如果我安于现状,就想起竞争对手。

如果我居功自傲,就回想屈辱的时候。

如果我自以为是,就试试能否让风止步。

如果我腰缠万贯,就想想那些食不果腹的人。

如果我目空一切,就想起自己怯懦的时候。

如果我不可一世,就抬起头来仰望群星。

从此,我能识别和辨认人类所有情绪变化的奥秘,包括自己的在内。从今以后,无论我的个人情绪如何变化,我会随时做出积极的行动来控制。一旦我控制了自己的情绪,就掌握了自己的命运,也将成为自己的主人,变得卓尔不群。

The tides advance;the tides recede.Winter goes and summer comes.Summer wanes and the cold increases.The sun rises;the sun sets.The moon is full;the moon is black.The birds arrive;the birds depart.Flowers bloom;flowers fade.Seeds are sown;harvests are reaped.All nature is a circle of moods and I am a part of nature and so,like the tides,my moods will rise;my moods will fall.

It is one of nature’s tricks,little understood,that each day I awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday.Yesterday’s joy will become today’s sadness;yet today’s sadness will grow into tomorrow’s joy.Inside me is a wheel,constantly turning from sadness to joy,from exultation to depression,from happiness to melancholy.Like the flowers,today’s full bloom of joy will fade and withers into despondency,yet I will remember that as today’s dead flower carries the seed of tomorrow’s bloom so,too,does today’s sadness carry the seed of tomorrow’s joy.

And how will I master these emotions so that each day will be productive?For unless my mood is right the day will be a failure.Trees and plants depend on the weather to flourish but I make my own weather,yea I transport it with me.

And how will I master my emotions so that every day is a happy day,and a productive one?I will learn this secret of the ages:Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions;strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.Each day,when I awaken,I will follow this plan of battle before I am captured by the forces of sadness,self-pity and failure—

If I feel depressed I will sing.

If I feel sad I will laugh.

If I feel ill I will double my labor.

If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.

If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.

If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.

If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.

If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.

If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.

Henceforth,I will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best,and I am not inferior.There will be days when I must constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down.Those such as despair and sadness are simple to recognize but there are others which approach with a smile and the hand of friendship and they can also destroy me.Against them,too,I must never relinquish control—

If I become overconfident I will recall my failures.

If I overindulge I will think of past hungers.

If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.

If I enjoy moments of greatness I will remember moments of shame.

If I feel all-powerful I will try to stop the wind.

If I attain great wealth I will remember one unfed mouth.

If I become overly proud I will remember a moment of weakness.

If I feel my skill is unmatched I will look at the stars.

Henceforth I will recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind,and in me.From this moment I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day.I will master my moods through positive action and when I master my moods I will control my destiny.I will become master of myself.I will become great.