书城外语用自己最爱的方式过一生
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第30章 人人都有烦恼Every Living Person Has Problems

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坚强的人成功的奥秘是什么?为何他们能熬过艰苦的岁月,而有些人却被困难压倒呢?为何成功属于坚强之人,而失败的却是另一些人?为何那些坚强的人能一飞冲天,而另一些人却身陷困难的泥沼呢?其实答案很简单,主要在于他们如何面对自己的问题。的确,生活中每个人都会有各自的烦恼。一个不被困难所困扰的人生,只能是一种幻想,就好比是沙漠中的海市蜃楼。现实就是这样,我们必须接受。每座山都有它的最高点,每个峡谷都有它的最低点。人生的起起落落,一样也有顶峰与低谷,不会有人一生都成功,也不会有人一直都在失败。问题总有一天会结束。随着时间的流逝,所有问题都会迎刃而解。或许你无法掌控时势,但你可以选择理性地应对。或许你无法选择时运,但你可以选择面对它的方式。比如,遭遇一场严重的经济挫折,究竟如何做才是积极面对呢?酗酒、吸毒甚至自杀,采取一系列逃避方式算得上积极应对吗?不!当然不是,那些消极的应对方式看似能缓解一时的问题,事实上反而会带来更棘手的麻烦。鼓起勇气去解决问题,才是积极应对的方法。人的一生中有许多看似无法解决的难题,当你能够控制自己面对问题时的反应,事实上你已掌控了问题对你的影响。你对问题的态度是非常重要的,起着决定性的作用,因为它可以使人变得脆弱,也可使人变得坚强。它既可使人做得更好,也可以使人痛苦,这全在于你如何面对它。总而言之,人能够坚强地渡过困难,往往取决于他们选择积极应对困境的态度。难关不会无止境,只要你永不懈怠,坚持到底。历史告诉我们,每个问题都会有终结,没有解决不了的问题。

What is the secret ingredient of tough people that enables them to succeed?Why do they survive the tough times when others are overcome by them?Why do they win when others lose?Why do they soar when others sink?The answer is very simple.It’s all in how they perceive their problems.Yes,every living person has problems.A problem-free life is an illusion—a mirage in the desert.Accept that fact.Every mountain has a peak.Every valley has its low point.Life has its ups and downs,its peaks and its valleys.No one is up all the time,nor are they down all the time.Problems do end.They are all resolved in time.You may not be able to control the times,but you can compose your responses.You may not have chosen your tough time,but you can choose how you will react to it.For instance,what is the positive reaction to a terrible financial setback?In this situation would it be the positive reaction to cop out and run away?Escape through alcohol,drug,or suicide?No!Such negative reactions only produce greater problems by promising a temporary“solution”to the pressing problem.The positive solution to a problem may require courage to initiate it.When you control your reaction to the seemingly uncontrollable problem of life,then in fact you do control the problem’s effect on you.Your reaction to the problem is the last word!That’s the bottom line.What will you let this problem do to you?It can make you tender or tough.It can make you better or bitter.It all depends on you.

In the final analysis,the tough people who survive the tough times do so because they’ve chosen to react positively to their predicament.Tough times never last,but tough people do.Tough people stick it out.History teaches us that every problem has a lifespan.No problem is permanent.