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第28章 完美爱人InLife,We are Happiest When...

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一个男人与他的女朋友举行了一场盛大的结婚典礼。所有的亲朋好友都来参加了。他们的婚礼,见证了他们的幸福。大家过得很愉快。身着雪白婚纱的新娘楚楚动人,穿着黑色礼服的新郎英俊潇洒。大家都看得出来,他们彼此相爱。数月后,妻子提议:“我刚在杂志上看到一篇文章,讲的是如何巩固夫妻感情。”她说:“我们各自在纸上罗列出对方的小缺点,然后一起找出解决的办法,从而使我们的婚姻生活更融洽。”丈夫很赞成。于是,他们各自在房间里想对方的缺点。那天的余下时间,他们都在想这个问题,同时也把所想到的写了下来。 第二天早上,吃早餐时,他们决定谈谈彼此的缺点。“我先来吧。”妻子说。她拿出单子,上面都写满了,足有三页纸。在念丈夫的小毛病时,她注意到他的眼角湿润了。“怎么了?”她问道。“没什么,”丈夫答道,“继续念啊。”

妻子接着念。念完这三张纸后,她把单子整齐地放在桌上,两手交叉放在上面。“现在,该你了。你念完后,我们就来谈谈这些缺点吧。”妻子开心地说道。丈夫平静地说:“我什么也没写。我觉得现在的你就很完美了,你很可爱,很迷人,我不想让你为我改变什么。”丈夫的诚实、包容以及他那深沉的爱,深深地触动了她,她转过头去哭了起来。生活中,很多时候,我们都会感到失望、沮丧和厌烦,但我们不必刻意去寻找美丽、光明和希望,因为我们美好的世界里本身就有这些。当我们放眼四周,发觉一切都美好如新时,又为何要把光阴耗费在找寻不快、失落和烦恼上呢?

A man and his girlfriend were married.It was a large celebration.All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations.All had wonderful time.The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo.Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.A few months later,the wife came to the husband with a proposal.“I read in a magazine,a while ago,about how we can strengthen our marriage,”she offered,“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person.Then,we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”The husband agreed.So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.The next morning,at the breakfast table,they decided that they would go over their lists.“I’ll start.”Offered the wife.She took out her list.It had many items on it.Enough to fill 3 pages,in fact.As she started reading the list of the little annoyances,she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes.“What’s wrong?”she asked.“Nothing,”the husband replied,“keep reading your list.”The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband.She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over the top of it.

“Now,you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.”She said happily.Quietly the husband stated,“I don’t have anything on my list.I think that you are perfect the way that you are.I don’t want you to change anything for me.You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”The wife,touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her,turned her head and wept.In life,there are enough times when we are disappointed,depressed and annoyed.We don’t really have to go looking for them.We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty,light and promise.Why waste time in this world looking for the bad,disappointing or annoying when we can look around us,and see the wondrous things before us?