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第71章 Get a Thorough Understanding of Oneself 悟透自己

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心灵寄语

人在一生中阅人无数,但最难的恐怕是悟透自己。悟透自己,就是要了解自己的优势和不足;悟透自己,也意味着自我欣赏;悟透自己,也代表着要关爱自己。只有悟透自己,才能把握自己的人生,活得精彩!

In all one"s life time it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of. When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach;luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your worth. When you are going downhill1 you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking difficulties and adversities2 for your own incompetence. It"s likely that you think it wise for yourself to know your place and stay aloof3 from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap4 in your life will be retarded5.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober6 realist—aware of both one"s strength and shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You may be courageous7 to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct your efforts. That"s to say, so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won"t be difficulties you can"t overcome, nor obstacles you can"t surmount8.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self appreciation. Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass, whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a state of nature that has its own reason. If you earnestly admire yourself you"ll have a real sense of self-appreciation, which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you"ll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it"s needed. In time of anger, do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won"t be hurt by its flames;in time of sadness, do yourself a favor by sharing it with your friends so as to change a gloomy9 mood into a cheerful one;in time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic10. Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life. As you are aware, what a person physically has is but a human body that"s vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So if you fall ill, it"s up to you to take a good care of yourself. Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor, you won"t be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness.

To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one"s life. Then one will find one"s life full of color and flavor.

佚名

在人的一生中,大部分时间都在和自己相处,和自己打交道,但是人们却常常难以悟透自己。在走上坡路时,你往往会高估自己的能力。好像一切都唾手可得,你如此得意忘形,甚至把幸运和机遇也当做是自己身价的一部分。当你走下坡路时,又常常低估自己,错将所遇到的困难和逆境归结为自己的无能。你也有可能自认为有自知之明,与世无争,然而这正如同带着懦弱者的面具,而面具的背后是快要窒息的鲜活生命。

悟透自己,就是正确地认识自己,做一个清醒的现实主义者——既要了解自己的优势,也要了解自己的缺陷。我们可以憧憬未来,但期望值绝不能过高,因为梦想永远不会完全实现。你可以勇敢地迎接挑战,但是必须要明确自己努力的方向。也就是说,只要你要你足够的了解自己,就没有无法克服的困难,没有无法逾越的障碍。

悟透自己,就要懂得自我欣赏。无论你把自己比做一棵参天大树,还是一株小草,无论你认为自己是一座巍峨的高山,还是一块小小的石头,你都是一种天然的状态,都有自己存在的价值。如果你能认真地欣赏自己,你就会真正地感知自我,那样会令你更加自信。只要你拥有了自信,就能够与一切逆境做斗争,勇敢地克服困难。

悟透自己,就要懂得对自己好一点。当被愤怒冲昏了头脑时,对自己好一点,找个安静的地方宣泄一下,以防愤怒之火伤身;当自己陷入悲伤的情绪时,对自己好一点,向朋友诉说,让自己的情绪由阴转晴;当疲惫不堪时,对自己好一点,好好睡一觉,滋养身心。关爱自己的健康,关心自己的饥寒冷暖。要明白,一个人所拥有的不过是自己的血肉之躯,它很脆弱,经不起太多的风霜雨雪。那么,当你生病时,惟有你自己才能好好照顾自己。如果你不懂得关爱自己,那么在面对病魔的侵袭时,也无法自信地渡过难关。

悟透自己,就是要完全地掌控自己的人生。那样的话,你将会发现你的人生将会五彩斑斓、有滋有味。

词汇空间 ocabulary

1.downhill adv. 向下,走下坡路

2.adversity n. 逆境,挫折

3.aloof adj. 冷淡的,漠不关心的

4.sap n. 活力,元气

5.retard v. 延迟,阻碍

6.sober adj. 清醒的,冷静的

7.courageous adj. 勇敢的,有胆量的

8.surmount v. 超越,克服

9.gloomy adj. 暗淡的,令人沮丧的

10.tonic n. 滋补品,补药

文化链接 Culture Background

现实主义

现实主义既是一种世界观,也是一种包含了各种现实主义者理论和观点借以产生、发展的一套假定的研究范式。现实主义首先是一种长期存在的哲学传统和世界观。现实主义作为一种世界观,是建立在它对道德进步和人类能力的悲观主义认识基础上的。现实主义者把历史看作是循环的而不是进步的,他们对于人类是否有能力克服反复出现的冲突,建立持久的合作与和平深表怀疑。现实主义世界观更多看到的是人类本性中的恶,以及人类经验中周而复始的悲剧。现实主义的这些哲学观点在修昔底德、霍布斯、马基雅维利的著作中就有了强烈的反映。在20世纪,莱因霍尔德·尼布尔(Reinhold Niebuhr)则是这类现实主义的一个典型代表,尽管现实主义的哲学基础在赫伯特·巴特菲尔德(Herbert Butterfield)、马丁·怀特(MartinWight)和汉斯·摩根索的著作中才得到了明显的表现。

妙语拾珠

1.It"s likely that you think it wise for yourself to know your place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded.

你也有可能自认为有自知之明,与世无争,然而这正如同带着懦弱者的面具,而面具的背后是快要窒息的鲜活生命。

2.To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist—aware of both one"s strength and shortage.

悟透自己,就是正确地认识自己,做一个清醒的现实主义者——既要了解自己的优势,也要了解自己的缺陷。